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From the Ted Talk by Loretta J. Ross: Don't call people out -- call them in

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One of my students once said, "A call-out is not an invitation for growth. It's the expectation that you've already grown." This is the culture we're trapped in now. On the other hand, there is calling in. "Calling in" is a phrase ieenvtnd by Loan Tran, and basically, a call-in is a call-out done with love. So when you think somebody has done something wrong and you want to hold them acunbctloae, you don't react with anger or hate. You just remain calm and look at them and say — and you can do this online and in person, too — but you just look at them calmly, and you tell them, "That's an ineertistng vpnieiowt. Tell me more." With that, you've invited them into a conversation instead of a fight. And you don't have to agree with somebody to offer them loving aoietttnn. All you're admitting at that mmnoet is that there's a possibility that they're as complicated as you are. And everybody deserves to be heard and to be respected.

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One of my students once said, "A call-out is not an invitation for growth. It's the expectation that you've already grown." This is the culture we're trapped in now. On the other hand, there is calling in. "Calling in" is a phrase ________ by Loan Tran, and basically, a call-in is a call-out done with love. So when you think somebody has done something wrong and you want to hold them ___________, you don't react with anger or hate. You just remain calm and look at them and say — and you can do this online and in person, too — but you just look at them calmly, and you tell them, "That's an ___________ _________. Tell me more." With that, you've invited them into a conversation instead of a fight. And you don't have to agree with somebody to offer them loving _________. All you're admitting at that ______ is that there's a possibility that they're as complicated as you are. And everybody deserves to be heard and to be respected.

Solution

  1. accountable
  2. invented
  3. moment
  4. viewpoint
  5. interesting
  6. attention

Original Text

One of my students once said, "A call-out is not an invitation for growth. It's the expectation that you've already grown." This is the culture we're trapped in now. On the other hand, there is calling in. "Calling in" is a phrase invented by Loan Tran, and basically, a call-in is a call-out done with love. So when you think somebody has done something wrong and you want to hold them accountable, you don't react with anger or hate. You just remain calm and look at them and say — and you can do this online and in person, too — but you just look at them calmly, and you tell them, "That's an interesting viewpoint. Tell me more." With that, you've invited them into a conversation instead of a fight. And you don't have to agree with somebody to offer them loving attention. All you're admitting at that moment is that there's a possibility that they're as complicated as you are. And everybody deserves to be heard and to be respected.

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