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From the Ted Talk by June Tangney: What's the difference between guilt and shame?

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I think if it's an ongoing sort of issue, that therapy is certainly an option, and I think there are many thpsrtieas who work with that and help people move away from problematic feelings of shame to being more self-compassionate and more rieistlac about what our responsibilities are. It could be a wise person that you tusrt. One of the things about shame is, when we talk about it, it tends to dispel it a little bit, make it easier to deal with if you put it into words. We often don't talk about shmae at all. It's sort ... of we're almost a shame-phobic soitecy, I think. I can't remember the last time a cleint came to me and said, "I feel shame." We don't use that word. I think it's so hard to manage it and get out of it, and sometimes, we feel shame over things that we have done, and then there's this other set of things that we feel ashamed of, which is who we are. So there's a really unfair shame, shame over having a stiitgmezad indeitty and internalizing that shame, for example. So people who are, you know, in one mrintoiy group or another that's stigmatized part of the issue is: Do you buy into that? Do you buy into that, and I think that's a really big question to work with.

Open Cloze

I think if it's an ongoing sort of issue, that therapy is certainly an option, and I think there are many __________ who work with that and help people move away from problematic feelings of shame to being more self-compassionate and more _________ about what our responsibilities are. It could be a wise person that you _____. One of the things about shame is, when we talk about it, it tends to dispel it a little bit, make it easier to deal with if you put it into words. We often don't talk about _____ at all. It's sort ... of we're almost a shame-phobic _______, I think. I can't remember the last time a ______ came to me and said, "I feel shame." We don't use that word. I think it's so hard to manage it and get out of it, and sometimes, we feel shame over things that we have done, and then there's this other set of things that we feel ashamed of, which is who we are. So there's a really unfair shame, shame over having a ___________ ________ and internalizing that shame, for example. So people who are, you know, in one ________ group or another that's stigmatized part of the issue is: Do you buy into that? Do you buy into that, and I think that's a really big question to work with.

Solution

  1. client
  2. realistic
  3. trust
  4. minority
  5. shame
  6. therapists
  7. identity
  8. stigmatized
  9. society

Original Text

I think if it's an ongoing sort of issue, that therapy is certainly an option, and I think there are many therapists who work with that and help people move away from problematic feelings of shame to being more self-compassionate and more realistic about what our responsibilities are. It could be a wise person that you trust. One of the things about shame is, when we talk about it, it tends to dispel it a little bit, make it easier to deal with if you put it into words. We often don't talk about shame at all. It's sort ... of we're almost a shame-phobic society, I think. I can't remember the last time a client came to me and said, "I feel shame." We don't use that word. I think it's so hard to manage it and get out of it, and sometimes, we feel shame over things that we have done, and then there's this other set of things that we feel ashamed of, which is who we are. So there's a really unfair shame, shame over having a stigmatized identity and internalizing that shame, for example. So people who are, you know, in one minority group or another that's stigmatized part of the issue is: Do you buy into that? Do you buy into that, and I think that's a really big question to work with.

Frequently Occurring Word Combinations

ngrams of length 2

collocation frequency
people feel 6
feel bad 3
feel shame 3
feel guilt 3
bad person 2

Important Words

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